WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

That brings me to something else. I know you are throwing yourself into being a great dad, and that is what you should do, however, you need some time for you. I think I mentioned this once before. I know you enjoy yourself and have fun with your boys, but you need some adult time. You work hard all day and you count the hours that you'll be with your kids. Have you made any new friends where you are living? I haven't seen where you've been out or where you've met anyone at the office. Is there some place you could go around town to meet new people? I'm not suggesting you get into another R b/c you aren't ready for that! But, you do need to find some folks other than your kids, your boss, and your WAW to be around. Your life needs to be more well-rounded. I think you would feel a lot better.

Sandi,

I totally agree about rounding out my life - guess that's the getting a life part. On the weekends, I do try to schedule things with my friends that I can bring my kids to - i.e. fair, musicfest, carnival, races, etc. I also invite my friends over for dinner with me and my boys or just to grab some drinks after the kids go to bed (that hasn't worked out too well as they keep getting up - gotta love kids).

I've also been talking to a number of people on this board, as well as my friends and family at nites. I do go out to lunch every day with co-workers. At least twice a week I go out to dinner or grab drinks with a co-worker. I also try to excersize at least once a week (running). Once I actually move into my apt (still staying in a hotel until almost mid-Oct), I'm going to find a boxing class.

So I am trying to get a life and devote time to myself and being happy with myself. I don't post about it much as I'm pretty satisfied with that end of it.

I do appreciate your concern Sandi and I know you are genuinely looking out of me.

Thanks!