Maybe I mis-remember, but when you first came here, didn't you say that you wanted help b/c your emotions got the better of you and you'd lose it and mess things up with your H?
Maybe here's a chance to not let the emotions run the show? One way to do that is to acknowledge how you're feeling, then let it go. We can't always control how e feel, nor should we even try in many cases. We can, however, control the *intensity* of our feelings and what we do with them.
I hear you about the door. I don't like having doors left open either even tho I live in one of those idyllic, safe small town places. For me, tho, this wouldn't be worth more than the following, said in a very casual, almost FYI manner:
"Hey - when you know you're going to be out all night, please let me know so I can lock the door."
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
