Yes, I know you are hurt. Yes, I know this is not fair. Your personal growth during this difficult time is key to saving the R. Do you want to fight with her, or support her during this difficult time in her life? How compassionate and understanding were you during your conversation? Did you validate her? How was your tone?
No matter how crazy or wrong her statements are, it is KEY to validate her. That does not mean you agree. Listen, then reply in a calm, cool and relaxed tone:
"Yes, I understand" "MMMM" "I can see why you think XYZ" "It must be hard to feel XYZ"
"Yes, I can see why you felt it was over when we could not agree on having a baby"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
