It helps me to remember that my W isn't quite herself. She is hurt and afraid after years of trying w/ a H who wouldn't listen. Don't blame, but realize that your H has talked himself into something you feel is not in his or your family's best interest. In that way you CAN agree w/ him. You don't have to agree w/ his choices but show that you understand.
Agreeing with someone stops them from putting up a wall against all the feelings you want them to feel.
Counseling is a huge step forward. Congratulations! I wish I could get to that point. I hope you can make the most of it.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
