"So here is the question of the day.... Should I just keep on doing what I am doing and see what happens... or should I come right out and ask her what her fear of moving back into our room is. AND if she says she would but does not want to become intimate... should I settle for that right now hopping that it will just keep getting better and maybe someday?"
OK, did you read PM?????? What is wrong with this whole question/various approaches?