Yoyo, I think you are being critical of Mr A because your STBX didn't give you a whole lot over the last couple of years. You want times to still feel special and by that I don't necessarily mean expensive. I really think you need to let him know now before you start to resent it.
Maybe your not telling him is an issue too because gee, see where it got you with H? Not every man is your H. I think Mr A does have a full plate right now but that doesn't mean that he isn't willing to still get out with you. Just talk to him!!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory