Allow her to invest in the marriage counselling, if it's important to her, it won't be an issue for her to pay for them and it shows you that she is going to invest in this process.
This is mute. Our health insurance pays 100% of the MC and she knows it.
drop the marriage counselling talk. in fact how hard would it be to put the bad history aside, and just enjoy being together for awhile? as breakaway said, that pressure is a big turn off. you obviously can turn her on (plus now you have 2 places to have sex).
