Oh no more relationship talk,work on myself,focus on being a parent and take my skirt off.READ,READ,READ,READ SOMEMORE,have fun excersise and take walks,count to ten and BREATHE and wait for one of you guys,when something comes up.
Taking Lexipro-Your doctor said no more meds until the drama is over....your question is answered by the person who should be answering it.
The lease-I agree with you taking it over and driving the car yourself. No need to empty the bank accounts unnecessarily. Then if she wants a new car..she can go out and pick it, apply for the loan, and drive it off the lot all by herself. Put she is going to be the one making the payments and your don't sign for anything. Let it be HER car.
Finances-Many different opinions float around the board. My thoughts would be to leave the current money in the account. Then come next paycheck day, open your own account. You can always transfer money into the house as needed or agreed upon, but that cuts off the threat of her emptying the accounts. By going this route there isn't that fight about you taking money she thinks might be hers and within a few weeks she will get the point that you aren't giving her money other than what is needed.
The kids visiting-I would say go with the kids not visiting for only one reason...You have seriously rocked the boat recently. Give it a week or two and then if she says no again, force the issue. I agree with the other posters that you are the kids dad and it isn't right for your wife to say no to a visit. But in light of that, right now there has to be a little bit of damage control on your part. Let this dog sleep for awhile! If you want to do something with the kids...make it a movie and dinner! Something that won't cause a confrontation with the wife today on top of the last couple of days.
Where you live-Where ever your feel comfortable. If it is with the co-worker...stay. New apartment...do it. New house....don't buy one in the same neighborhood! Whatever you want and are comfortable with. If YOU want a football themed bachelor pad...do it. Go wild a little bit.
Find some things you want to do for yourself. Run, Walk, hike, weightlifting, dance classes, or learn to play the trombone...Do some things for yourself.
Oh no more relationship talk,work on myself,focus on being a parent and take my skirt off.READ,READ,READ,READ SOMEMORE,have fun excersise and take walks,count to ten and BREATHE and wait for one of you guys,when something comes up.
All of this is great except for the last. You are going to have to get to a place where you feel confident and comfortable in making decisions for yourself and kids in regards to all of this.
You will get there, be patient, take it slow and give her space.
I have been pretty fortunate to find the right people and things.
Added the lose,quit quote to my email signature and spruced it up with color.
I need to work on my patience. Like the new counselor,we're all on the right track.
The only thing that she added to what you have already said, was I do need to contact an atty about my rights as a parent, in case she pushes the issue. Did that,know my rights, when the time is presented to me, I'll explain them in a non threatening way. After talking to her or you.
Haven't heard from S since Sunday,but i'm texting calling away. D is actually talking to me,told her i was going to pick her up Sunday for a couple hrs,phone ok, no friends, buh,bye.
I read how to forgive you and wrote the kids a letter each,run that by DB coach on Saturday,then follow her lead.
I found some real simple articles on being an extrodinary father. Which hey I found have all the attributes.
I also found a real simple article on postive thinking.
Where should I post them? Here or I can put an email address here and forward them.
