What about OM? She said that she knows he needs to go, but hasn't said he is gone. Do I keep strict boundaries or let them slide? It's hard to be natural with your W when you have unatural boundaries in place.
Personally, if it were me in this situation, I'd have her come by for dinner or something and try to get things to feel more natural. I'd put OM on the back burner for a bit. Just enjoy the night. Don't be all stiff and serious. If you have done what you were supposed to do, and get strong on your own, then OM isn't even a factor, because if my wife still had OM in the picture when she was talking reconciliation with me, as soon as I found out I'd kick her to the curb. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. You need to get to a position of power and confidence. I don't feel that yet. I feel like you are still wrapped around her finger, rather than working to wrap her around yours.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
