When you're in a board meeting, and the conversation on a topic just keeps getting debated without an end in sight, you can "ask the question" - this basically means stop the back-and-forth, and make a decision.
I think Coach's sample email is just that.
Then, focus on what you can control. You are reaping what you sowed, and there is a very real possibility the harvest may be the loss of your wife. I apologize for the bluntness, but it is the reality of the situation.
I can PROMISE you from personal experience, that continuing the conversations is a prescription to end the marriage for sure.
Find something to do! Pick up a new hobby.
Start putting attention you would normally put on W on your kids. I don't know what they like, but rediscover playing in the dirt. Go to the arcade. Randomly drive off and go fishing.
Invest yourself into a soup kitchen, or helping out with Habitat for Humanity. Catch up on projects around the house. Start riding dirt bikes. Find something and go do something good, start feeling better about yourself!
