Something else I believe is that we become more critical and have higher expectations for our future partners. We don't overlook things that we would have with our spouses. Perhaps it's unrealistic and unfair to the new people in our lives.

I find that although Mr. A seemed to be "perfect" at first, now I feel almost "taken for granted". We have been seeing each other for two months.

At first he seemed to do everything right. Now, I am finding things that bug me. It seems like he has settled into the "old married couple" phase already. We often just have dinner at his place and watch a video. I want to go out to a movie or a restaurant, even just a walk around the mall. Just not stay at home all the time.

Am I being overly critical...probably. It seems that I almost feel "entitled" to meet Mr. Perfect since my EX put me through so much.

So I think the betrayal also plays havoc with our future relationships. Ex was not even close to being perfect, but I put up with it so long. Why am I already being so critical of Mr. A?




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