Well, You did so splendidly with H's "talk". As if he really wanted to talk! You took control!!! Good for you!! I feel so proud of you.
And I will most definately join you on the curbside. I would like a special TUB of atomic fireballs please! I am definately gaining some momentum in the anger area, as you know....
I'm glad you stayed home and took some time for yourself. I need to take a page out of your book on that matter.
But, in all seriousness.....way to kick some MLC A*S!!
Ever since this all began, H does NOT put the dishes that he uses in the dishwasher any longer. He washes them by hand and puts them away. He always used the dishwasher before.
So tonight... I was putting some dishes in the dishwasher when he came in and set his dirty dishes on the counter by the sink. He then walked away, and I put them in the dishwasher. When I finished, I sat back down to watch DWTS. I had been watching for about ten minutes, when he went into the kitchen and asked where his dirty dishes went to. I told him they were in the dishwasher. He then opened the dishwasher, retrieved his plate, knife, and fork, washed them by hand, dried them, and put them away! It was all I could do to keep from laughing! I was about to blow it! If he had seen me laughing he would have had a tantrum I think! I guesss I could have made something up.
Just reinforces to me how crazy he really is!! It's a time like this I kinda feel sorry for him just a little. AND ha,ha, skank has the crazy H, not the real one!
MJ, That is just crazy. And it definitely goes against my motto - NEVER hand wash anything that can go in the dishwasher! Maybe that is some strange part of the MLC control issue.
I have seen my H do similarly strange things that have made me roll my eyes, want to laugh, etc., but I can't really think of anything right off the top of my head.
MJ, That is hilarious!! MLCers really do have the most crazy way of "KEEPING" and SHOWING "control". He is so OUT of control that the only thing he can control is his dish, knife, and fork. Your'e right...these are the moments, I too, feel so sad for my husband's state of mind. It feels like an illness to me, know what I mean? Hope you are having a good day.
I received a copy of H response from attorney in the mail today. He filed in late December, I responded in early January. It has been eight months. My attorney also attached a note that he filed the response with the court. She said what he filed was something against court procedure and it will be interesting to see what they do with it.
Oh brother... The craziness goes on. He continues to be very cold hearted.
He is refusing to pay spousal support( we have been married twelve years) because he feels I had plenty of time to further my education to make a better living. He estimated my income, and it was higher than I actually make. He makes about four times more than I do. I in fact, had to take a cut in pay when we relocated for his job. A job I heard about and thought he should apply.
He is refusing to pay my attorney fees, because he stated we could have worked this out by going to marriage counseling. That I refused. We did go once, but that's all. And it was only to make him look good, like he tried. I have proof he was already with skank when we went. Whenever I wanted to talk about the R, he would walk out the door. he was the one who didn't want to try.
He did say I can keep my dogs. They were something I had asked for in my response. He was so cold, and still is, that I thought he would claim them to be mean.
He is being a real jerk! This was not like him at all.
He came home right after work today. He is being nice. He is polite. He asks if he can bring me anything when he is up. It's just so weird! What a schmoozer! I never know what mood he is going to be in. It would be so mean if he was doing this to get a reaction out of me since that letter didn't do it!
I am not going to back down! After what he has put me through no way! All I have to do is put that picture in my head of coming face to face with them on the motorcycle that day. Oh, I could have made some real trouble for him in this town! And at his work! I wonder if he's thought of that. We are still in the same house, so this won't be pretty!
It is getting harder and harder to stand for this marriage.
I will continue along my same path, by putting my TRUST in the LORD. He is in control of this situation, and HE has me in the palm of HIS hands.
When I got home from work this evening, H was already here. I left before him this morning, and came home after he did. Mmmm... I wonder if he even went to work today.
He was on the computer, but greeted me nicely. I so wanted to ask him why,why,why? Why and where did you go? (sigh).
I was about to blow it! If he had seen me laughing he would have had a tantrum I think! I guesss I could have made something up.
Maybe that is some strange part of the MLC control issue. 