Mishka, it is indeed called "Bird's Nest." The concept is that it is better for the children to stay in the house they know and let the parents rotate in and out. From what I read, it seems that this can be the case in the short run < 1 year. But after that it is best for all parties to move on to their own places and let the children adjust. In today's housing market, when folks do get divorced this can be an option as the time to sell a house is so long.
The L was not 100% for it, although he had seen it issued in our state by a judge as a custody arrangement. His only thought was to get the rules in writing so that each party know what they must live by - such as no third parties ever enter the "nest."
Because I travel for work, this really wont be much of a deal for me. She can use her apartment on the weekends when I am home, and if I need to I can go somewhere else if it is her weekend.
This is quickly sinking into her head, because this morning she was waffling on everything she said. Although I cant stand the thought of this (and that is something I will not say to her or show her except to say I believe is detrimental to the family,)this may be the best thing. As Sandi or Greek said, let her get her place and see what it is like to pay all the bills and have the responsibility. If she decides she made a mistake, boy is it going to cost her $$$ money from her personal savings - but not the family's money. Oh well.....
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
