So, followed the advice and was not home when he brought the kids to the house. I really didn't expect him to take them to the house since it feels like he can't stand to be in my presence. I had dinner ready for the kids and him though. He ended up staying longer than I expected too. He stayed till 9:30, so could he have been waiting for me to show up? I try to get the kids to bed around that time. He sent me a text message that he was leaving the house,thanking me for dinner, that he got S to finish his homework and wished me a good night. I just replied I wished him a good night too. That was it.
D got mad a him and spent half the time in her room with the door closed. She said she told him she's fed up with the situation and for him to quit being selfish and tied up in his own life. She asked what could make him give up being a family. She said he made a joke of her comments and blew them off which made her mad. She said he also looks very tired and he even fell asleep on the sofa. She told me she's sick of his running and his obsession to qualify for Boston and wishes he would grow up. Both kids say they are embarassed of his childish behavior in public. Probably wasn't good that D pressured him.
Hard to practice this detachment and lessening of contact. I'm just going keep working on making myself happy and praying. "True happiness comes from within." And keeping hope. I know I should get back to more 180s. Just wishing for a sign that there's progress in myself and the R.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
