Kevin, I have not done this lightly. I do not want to step on your beliefs. I have been to the Rejoice ministries website. It left me confused.
When I talked to my pastor (again) about my marriage six weeks or so ago, I mentioned the site. He said (in nicer terms) it was a bunch of crap. God does indeed HATE divorce however he allows it due to the hardness of men's hearts.
When you have a spouse who in continuing to live outside of God's will (adultery, porn, manipulation, etc), it is not loving to continue to be nice to them and let them live that way. Jesus had to get angry and throw over the tables in the temple, right? Sometimes, being nice is NOT being loving.
I also called the Christian authors of the "Boundaries" books, Cloud and Townsend. Look them up, Kevin. They are Christians. And they told me in no uncertain terms that the ONLY hope for my marriage is to file and force my H to face the consequences for his decisions. He may have true repentance, he may not. But "lovingly accepting" him this way will not help anything.
OK enough about that. I know my faith is so important to me, that I don't want to step on someone else's. Just wanted to clear that up.
I did give him the papers last night. He looked at them for a minute, then said he would take them with him and read them. Of course he looked sad but he did take them. Just has to get the one paper notarized and returned to me.
