You are right too - if and when the gut instinct feels that things have changed, I can do a pull back too - works both ways.
I think that I may be taking back a bit of control - evidently I don't have much in my favour but I can decide on whether or not I want to communicate with him and that's a small step in the right direction. If I then withdraw from that again, H may start to wonder .... oh, paralysis by analysis, to quote the famous golfers term!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
