Give it to me straight!

[NNP1965]

...similarly my sitch has been going on for at least 11 years, but in actuality more like 20 (our entire marriage). Why? because I let it. H has had no reason to change, he likes things this way, he is comfortable like things have been.

Bbj,
Kevin, I believe in God. And maybe, just maybe, God decided to save Bbj from an unworthy man as her partner. Maybe, just maybe, cheating and exposing your wife to diseases and emotionally abusing her and CHOOSING between her and a another woman, neglecting your kids to screw around and ignoring your wife's years of trying to stand for your relationship, puuting her down and hurting her every single time she trusted you, are things God hates even more than D ...

Please, lets keep our sanity here.

Kalni I really really like what you wrote here. It is taking everything I have to continue with my D and every time I read something like Kevin wrote I think uh oh am I doing the wrong thing? Is this a sign I should try one more time? But no! I have been trying all these years. I may not have been the perfect wife, but I have done nothing to deserve the behavior my H has displayed and continues to display. BBJ has not either. We are both married to men who need to fall on their knees and begin a relationship with the man upstairs. Only then can they hope to conquer their demons and begin to repair the other relationships in their lives.

I finally understand that I am standing in the way of that happening. My prayer is that my H (and Dan) will find peace one day. But I know that what I (we) am living is not what God intended marriage to be.