Ok so maybe someone kicked this off in him, but dont get too obsessed with who! Hes not going to tell you and if you push to know hes only going to swing back and bite!
I know how you feel, my H was spending a lot of time with a SA guy, at least ten years younger than him and also he has always contracted so has a lot of money behind him.. The two of them were bored silly at work so often went out for coffee/eat during the day, I know H confided in him and one half thought at least loner boy has a friend, but I do wonder what the friend told him.
I reckon for every one person out there who would say "you said till death us do part and what ever sh*t hits the fan, now stick to it" there are at least four that would go down the route of "sh*t happens you need to be happy dump them and go" Marriages are disposable now!
First rule of a LBS is not to waste time and energy working out WHY! Just ignore him and GAL without him, my rule for me was not to react unless what he was doing started threating me, eg: with holding money! I would have had to seek legal advice.
His biggest paranoia seems to be the "their all talking about me" so DONT talk to anyone except your special friends and us, Im lucky we dont really have any joint friends so hes not gonna find out anything! Although my S will let the cat outta the bag so Im careful what info I give him.
Right at this minute you are in shock mode so tend to yourself and keep busy! Clean the whole house if you have to, but keep busy and go to that BBQ and look fab, it will get back to him be sure of that!
Lot of huggles as I do know how awful this feels, Im struggling today as well so you really do have my empathy x
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
