Dont read too much into the bank account thing, my H wanted his own because he had never had his own, he had always had a joint one with me. But again he is controlling the money so I know how you feel and I dont even have a job and in this climate its almost impossible to get one even with a good background.
Well your H is just indulging in the ME ME and if you havent notice dear wife ME show! Although some of it is total paranoia there is a lot that you can validate him on, I dont think any of us whilst in the middle of bringing up a family realise how much we lose of ourselves and how much that urge may well come back to bite us on the bum, and maybe for men more than woman as we see our family devotion as an honour, whereas the men are so often working and miss out so much on that!
Honestly space/time probably is the best thing at the moment, he needs time to let the dust settle and put his thoughts in order, and personally Id agree with all he says about you carrying on GAL, Im not so sure now that you DB'ing has necessarily had an adverse effect, IMHO he has just finally come to the boil, perhaps his own GAL isnt as all cracked up to be as he wants and he is bigging it up a bit.. Lets face it there is only so much drunken schoolboy behaviour and the resulting hangover that can be fun and after a while it loses its appeal. Also men dont bond in the way we do so much, that is one of the nice things on here is seeing the fella's interact with each other, bet if they lived next door there manhood would only allow a G'day non of the deep understanding and affection they show on the board.
Its gonna take a least a week for you to come up for air hun, so just take it steady today and tomorrow, enjoy the weekend and come out fighting again monday! If Im totally honest I would say it will take at least a month for H to lose some of his swollen head, maybe heading for six weeks, my first sign of H not being alien was on week seven, and I would classify him as an easy going laid back sorta chap..
We are all here for you huge hugs x
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