All completely understandable reactions on her part if she's not getting what she wants out of mediation/D. Also, the pent up feelings about the entire MR/D are going to come exploding out as well. My advice is stick to your business and your plans, and give her lots of space to go through her feelings.
What was bizarre was she came at me last night accusing me of "trying to screw her out of everything"- this after she kept playing hardball with me before mediation with this 70/30 "custody plan" of hers. Who exactly is trying to "screw" whom here? Then she went off and accused me of being a narcissist and questioning my manhood! Good grief! How quickly she forgets who is having the A here! So yes, the game plan is to stick to my business and let her go through her feelings.
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Anyone who has been married wants to help their spouse see the other side of pain, but the process of detachment is to not take away or process their feelings for them, however much empathy we might have. It is part of both people's grieving process. It hurts, and we don't know what to do to help the other person, so doing nothing is the best plan.
Like Stronger always says "Sit still and Shut your mouth!"
Well said. And good advice! Thanks Hope.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
