Did you read #3? Do not give her DR, ask her to read it, or mention it at all. This is your tool to use and yours alone.
It may seem like a good idea but to a WAS it just enforces that any change(s) you make are strictly to save the marriage and won't last. She will feel like you're trying to trick her into staying and push her even further away.
Read the book then ask here if you have questions.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
