Hey kiwi I just read your sitch and it is eerily similar to mine even our ages are the same! I am right there with you man. I have to agree with puppy and all the others about the A. I swore up and down there was no other man, but lo and behold the ex boyfriend showed up. I confronted her about it and she has been honest and open about it. I do think that money is a huge concern in these marriages especially now a days. My wife was quick to point out many other faults but tip toes around the financial side of things. I think it is much bigger than they want to admit as they might think it is too superficial. HOwever, consider the financial side of the relationship more of a security blanket. If the woman does not feel safe in the relationship why would she stay?
i am struggling with that aspect of our lives now. We are going through bankruptcy. My wife has said many times that she lost trust in me because of financial decisions i have made. It is going to be hard to change those things, especially when we live apart half the time.
The only thing that i have going for me is that she is still very much attracted to me.
Use anything to reconnect with her. Be the man she fell in love with but be that man with a plan.
