Wife wants best of both worlds

[awest1217]

your story is very similar to my own. I completely understand the best of both worlds. H left 5 months ago, and he does the same thing. He wants his family time which is about 3 hours twice a week, if he feels like it, and then no contact at all between. (if you want more info everything is under Question in this forum).

I completely understand that this is hard because I am there. I can't stand it and H lives about 1.2 miles away. I feel like he has moved on without either of us and is having fun and it bothers me.

What I have found that helps me is just go out. Go out and reconnect with old friends, watch a movie, take the kids somewhere they have never been, so many other things. Get busy and just do instead of think. It does not always work because usually once a week or one and a half weeks I have two or three bad days where all I do is think about him and her, but it gets better all the time and usually it is for less time and is less hurtful because I now know I can do it on my own and can be happy without H, although I truly believe I would be happier with H if he chooses to leave OW.

I am really new at this, and when I read about your son's birthday, it is the day before my son's and almost the same thing happened to me. Honestly everything sounds exactly the same.

I really hope you can find some peace. Start focusing on making you happy is all I can say. It will come slowly.