Back because I'm desperate, Need help letting GO

[awest1217]

I don't know if I can really help because I am new to all of this, but I can relate to the long time being together. H and I have dated since we were 16 in high school. We have been through high school, college, marriage, buying a house, and having our wonderful son, but he left and has had/is having an EA.

All I can say to you is what I have told my H since this has started so he knows what the other side of the fence with look like. If we ever get to a D, we will NEVER talk again. We will see each other because of S, but he will NEVER be friends. There will be no FB, texting, emailing, talking, anything at all. I am not saying you should do this, but I know for me, it is the only way I would be able to move on.

I know I would think about him all the time and want to know what is going on in his life for a really long time because when you are with someone for that long, you really do become connected, but somehow you need to completely separate yourself.

I don't know if this helps because I am new at this. You will be in my prayers.