well, i'm not going to start thinking of myself as single, maybe it's semantics but i feel like it defeats the purpose of what i'm trying to do right now.
What I am saying is to think of yourself as single. Dress up, look good, think of yourself as a good catch for someone. It's the way you view yourself that is important, your attitude. It does not defeat the purpose, because this attitude is required for you to attract your W back to you. Read Coach's, Puppy's, or Robx's posts.
If you only look to your W's approval to make you feel better of yourself, you are going to feel bad and it will show. This will be unattractive to your W. And the cycle continues.
This does not mean to be unfaithful. It just means that you need to look good for everyone, so you feel good about yourself.
Originally Posted By: ryepatch
i see what you mean about patience and reward. i just need to find deeper streams of patience. the reward would be respect for my patience. i know i'm looking for crumbs here, it just feels so pathetic sometimes. if she weren't sick, i should be angry as hell, so it's confusing. i just hope she realizes. . .
rypatch, you being patient for her is a good and honorable thing that you are doing for her. Don't wait for her to "realize" it to feel good about what you are doing. Take pride in it right now, it is anything but "pathetic". Yes, you could be angry as hell; but your not, you are showing compassion and patience.
Originally Posted By: ryepatch
i'm doing ok again today. i've decided that i need to accept that i have an anxiety disorder, specifically a panic disorder, and my wife has a mood disorder, and there's been a bad feedback cycle for a while. i'm getting myself together, i hope she's working on doing the same.
I think anxiety comes with being a LBS. I had to take sleeping pills the first couple weeks after W told me she was leaving. Did you have anxiety problems before your marital ones?
