Well, today was another banner day. LOL at least I can add some humour. Met the L first thing to learn what the process was and what my options were. He came back with the same Alimony and Child support numbers I did, so felt better about the situation. Although its not good, should she pull the trigger, it wont be the end of the world. Very comforting.

As previously mentioned, wife is going to rent a place for herself and I guess, If I am not traveling for work - someplace I may stay if needed. Don't like it, but, if she chooses to spend her own money there, then so be it. I told her I will not sign the lease or any of the utilities. Its a small moral victory, because she can still get them done, but at least I have not aided and abetted her. I have found other options for me if we go down this "birds nest custody path," such as scheduling all my work travel during those periods. Not yet happy with that possible solution. All above comments from Greek, Sandi, Coach, Tristan noted and agreed with. Should anyone want to read up on it, that is what it is called and you can Google it on the web.

Because of the Apartment gig, I told her that we should go ahead and put the house and our vacation rental home on the market. I had my realtor give me all the info on the rental house and then told the Wacky WAW (or WWAW) that we needed to list the house. Suddenly, panic crossed her face and for the first time in 12 weeks, I had control. She asked that I give her a month to do this aprtment gig and see if this was really what she wanted. I told her I wasn't sure if that was going to work for me. That I would get back to her on it. Shock across her face again. I finally shocked her by taking control - But not in a mean way. Now to keep this, GAL, add new clothes that fit my slimmer body (20lbs lost since the bomb), bought the new colgne and to make myself scarce.

Now the concept of not putting the house on the market actually works for me if and only if she agrees that there no divorce filing during this period. Perhaps she will cool down a bit and miss me. Who knows..... Will need to have that discussion. She wanted to talk about it later tonight. I said no thank you.

Of course in this roller coaster world, tomorrow is sure to present a brand new challenge in this area.....

I found myself having this extremely unattached (detachment) feeling again today as I moved throughout my workday. Even considered heading to FL by myself for a few days (but realized it would cost too much at the last minute.) I am still mostly worried about the two boys, but I know what ever happens with me and the WWAW - I will still be their Dad. I will still be there for their graduations, I will still be there for their weddings, and still be there when they need help. This is a huge step.


I am sure I made more mistakes again in the process, but feel that today was a better day all-in-all. I am letting go, letting her find her way, and will slowly, but surely take back control of this family (at least for me and the boys)


ME 41, Her 41
M 18.5 years
T 19.5 years
s - 12, 10
Bomb 7/12/09
Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09
She moved out 10/1/09 - present