Sometimes the reasons for those things have very little to do with the partner and quite a bit to do with events in the H's family of origin.
When I read Breakaway's sitch, I see a verbally/emotionally abusive man with alcohol and porn addictions. Break could be a standout mate and with that set of issues, her H would still treat her like crapola.
His anger is not about Break for the most part - it is merely triggered by Break.
His alcohol issues are not about her.
His porn issues are not about her.
Last edited by Dia; 09/24/0912:20 AM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
