Kalni, Thanks...I do feel a little like there is that white elephant still in the room that nobody wants to acknowledge but..... YES things are better. It does feel like the air is not so think anymore. I have been showing more affection and as of now W returns my kisses. I even a few times did NOT lean in to her for the kiss and she leaned in to ME... I still bothers me though that she has a "fear" of moving back into our room and becoming intimate. Tomorrow she set up an appointment with our credit union to help me set up an investment with my 401K like hers. We are planning on going to lunch after. So here is the question of the day.... Should I just keep on doing what I am doing and see what happens... or should I come right out and ask her what her fear of moving back into our room is. AND if she says she would but does not want to become intimate... should I settle for that right now hopping that it will just keep getting better and maybe someday?
“All the focus is on your relationships and how you have made choices in the past relative to partners.”Choices I have made… Only God (and you guys) really knows what I have done and what I could have done and sometimes wanted to do. I mentioned to my buddy up in Washington that part of the reason I wanted to come up was to settle something with a person up here but I changed my mind. The first things he asked was “Did you meet her on the internet?” I said no it not a woman... His next Question was “Are you Gay?” NO I told him. The guy was someone who did me wrong and I thought I wanted to get back at him but now I just want to forget him. He then asked if this guy came between me and my wife and if so “Lets go get him” He said we can pick up a few of his buddies and do some damage to him.. I told him no lets just drop it... WOW you got to be careful what you wish for... I realized I did not have to expose the affair to his family... I could have put him in the hospital….My Buddy does not mess around... BTW his family intervention with his boys went well. Ok got to load my NEW dump trailer my uncle bought me... I have a load of wood to deliver…Oh one more thing…. MIL started crying when I went over her house when I got back. She missed me so much... go figure...she came over our house for BBQ salmon last night. When wife was taking her home I helped her out into the car and gave her a hug. Without thinking I said.” Now you two ladies go straight home and don’t go cursing around and pick up guys… My MIL said….”she better not I will disown her”…
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
