Bill, I had an idea. My H and I had a couple's massage the last time we went on vacation (SIL babysat). It is very relaxing massage and since it is done in the same room but by two different therapists it would not interfere with your W's space. It is like an individual full body massage but the two tables are side to side and you get to peek while the other undresses The therapists then enter the room and give each of you the massage and then leave. What you do when your relaxed selves get to your room is up to your level of relaxation
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
