Out of the blue STBX called me yesterday because, she said, she felt compelled to let me know that she appreciates all the time I spent with her teaching her how to use a computer. Said that she knows it was hard for me to be patient because she was afraid she couldn't learn how to make brochures, use e-mail and other things to promote her massage business.
She said she's grateful I didn't give up on her because now she is very comfortable doing these things.
I really didn't know what to say, so I remembered what BrandNewDay told me the other day, that they are often looking for approval or some other kind of positive response, so I thanked her for her comments.
Today D14 stayed home from school for a 'mental health' day. I called STBX and asked her what's up as D14 seemed pretty upbeat yesterday. STBX said she was asked to write something about herself for a school project in English class and she could only think about the divorce and related things. So she decided to write about her dog Diamond (the one we put to sleep recently) and what a great dog she was. STBX said D14 cried herself to sleep last night.
STBX said that it's hard for the kids to deal with divorce and it will just take time. No sadness in her voice.
One good thing is she's going to go to Al Anon and take the girls. I told her that was a great idea. I'm hoping that she might see her role in that situation. I already see mine.
I look at these things as positives. Healing steps. This is a turning point. Where it takes us is not for me to know right now but healing is a good thing regardless of the end of the marriage.
