She is a grown woman, isn't she? The divorce is her idea isn't it? It's kind of you to worry about her future, but it's a future she desires. She's off the deep end at the moment and unless you want to follow her off the deep end, you have to just allow yourself to prepare for your own single life and let her prepare (if she's going to) for her new life.
If you are asking, "should I help further the divorce process?", I don't have a problem with that. You can still do a 180 in how you treat her while still helping her divorce you. It's what she wants...you are just aiding the process, or at the very least not impeding it. Because you love her you choose to let her go, not because you don't. If that's what makes her happy, then you support it, even if you personally wouldn't choose divorce.
None of this legal stuff happens that fast, especially if you have kids, so there is always time for her to change her mind. You work on yourself and showing your changes while respecting her wishes.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
