yes I asked D if she'd like to go with me sometime and Sunday D said she'd like to see where I was staying, was going to take her But wife said noway, not until she knew more about it, so I dropped it, that was Saturday, i think.
I don't know which is better...what do you prefer <evil grin>?
ayk,
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But wife said noway, not until she knew more about it, so I dropped it, that was Saturday, i think.
YOU are the kids Dad. SHE does not get to dictate where you live. If there is an issue of safety (ie: she has a legitimate concern), she can put that on the table. Have you ever put the kids at risk?
IMO she is being controlling. Never have I ask H for an address or questioned his ability to parent. Intersingly, when he has had them where he lives, (the first time) I have always done a drop off (at his request) and I have been given an actual address not met him in a grocery store parking lot,He has access to our D's and while we have an arrangement for visitation, I would be flexible if something came up (hasn't yet).
Until she knows more about it?!? <sizzle> Sorry, but she's the one driving this. There are consequences to all our actions, both good and bad!
You daughter wanted to do something with you and your wife said no...but other than that your wife is more than willing to let the kids decide when to see you.
And let me get this right...its going to take all your money you squirreled away to 'save' her from her lease? Ahhh hell you do that and she just might reward her white knight with a night of bliss...(someone slap me) No AYK don't she more than likely won't care. Stop trying to save her.
YOU ARE UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT YOU CAN MAKE THIS GO AWAY.
YOU ARE UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT YOU CAN TRICK HER.
YOU UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT THERE IS SOME FAST WAY THROUGH THIS.
You can either focus and slow down or you can burn out and quit on this. You have found ONE OF THE BEST places to save your marriage, but in your current mind frame you're going to quit and think it was a waste of time...because you aren't doing it right. Your fault.
DBing is all about becoming a better person, not tricking your spouse into coming back to the marriage...that is actually a lot of luck involved with that...and skill you have learned.
There are too many DAMNED good people who are simply amazing, and IF/WHEN their spouses snap the f out of their little self absorbed MLC world are going to be blessed to have them in their life.
Get to work on getting better.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I know she doesn't care, I've known she doesn't care. And i was focusing too much on trying to fix things she pointed out, i may not get to fix those things now and just move on.
