I think you're discounting the SIGNIFICANT number of wayward spouses who use MC as a false pretense to pretend that they tried. It happens. I actually overheard my wife, during her affair, talking to her brother on the phone, saying "I'll go to the counseling, just to show Mom and Dad and the kids that I tried, but there's no way I'm getting back together with Puppy."
Second. My W was trying the same thing. She wanted to be able to tell people she tried, but had no intention of working on it at that time. She just sat in the corner and watched the clock.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
