Ah! The third party input SR.... Can be useful but they don`t know that we need to let some bad behaviours slide under the radar in the grand scheme of things while catching other behvaviours with boundary setting.
Picking our battles in other words.
Yeah, sometimes its hard to decide which ones to let go though!
And that pleasant voive does seem to work best.
I used to slate my H before.
I do think that for H`s in crisis they are reverting back to behaviours they`ve seen used by their fathers when they(the h`s!) were growing up. (well, the first time they were growing up...)
