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[iwantittowork]

Thanks Coach, that is why I actually chose those words in my sentence.

However, what's the 'lead' here, ultimately, this is probably the way things will go for that Holiday, my d8 with me at my families, as my W has no family here anymore. (Well, other than mine, but she is clear she won't be spending time with them any more..)

I believe your talking about her 'unilateral' decision making, but I am unclear how to approach that, other than objecting to her making the decision on her own without consulting me? I am sure in her mind, her discussion this AM was her 'consulting' with me..