what dan is doing is mental abuse IMO...

it's like he's dangling a carrot(the reconciliation) and jerks it away just as you get ready to bite it..

he's been treated with kid gloves..

have the papers served on him....by someone other than you..a position of authority....

unless an addict seeks and gets help on their own then i don;t think there is any hope for recovery...they must want to do it..

and clearly dan does not want it..