What about his work hours? Has he indicated a desire to scale back his hours and become a PRESENT part of the family again?
How much of his over-working was due to the other relationship?
Your first response, when you said you might let him try again in a few years, sounded like a reasonable plan to me.
He took nearly four years destroying your marriage.
His response to that?
It was a mistake and I've got it out of my system now.
Hmmmm.....
SHOWING his faithfulness, doing ACTIONS that prove his love and commitment...these things take TIME.
You cannot be prepared to trust this man again, despite what you might think. If you make this too easy, it will resurface, either in YOU or in HIM. Maybe both at different times.
I support your choice, because it is yours and yours alone to make. But please make a choice and implement it WISELY. The recidivism rate on adultery is HIGH. It is rarely a one shot deal. He has much to heal from, as do you.
Blessings,
bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
