thats why i asked to help us understand. i will use your word finesse. there is a finesse to being a "don juan" correct.
now i or tristan can say 'bam' you screwed up it is now my way, take it or leave it. or we can say / do / realize 'she' is obviously passionate and searching for something (and maybe confused); how am i going to affect her in the most loving and heart-felt way in this complex situation. i hope i explained that question to you correctly.
