She's telling me that she needs to experience independence.
Then give her that. With independence comes all the repsonsiblity.
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I have set these lines int he sand before and all it did was reinforce her idea that I am a selfish person who didn't care about her needs.
So your boundaries which should be about your well-being are selfish? What are some examples of your "lines in the sand?" How did you phrase them?
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When I have told her that I am her friend and truly want her to be happy,
great!
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Drawing the line ends up making a you against me situation where being her friend and supporting her kind of puts us on the same team.
Boundaries are about behaviors someone does that you will not allow to happen to you.
"When you do this______________, I feel _______________. I will not allow that to happen anymore, if you continue to do it then I will _____________." It's not personal, it's not mean, it's healthy and it's productive. Think thru it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
