Un-freaking-believable! I don't know how you have managed to stay so calm! That was child abduction, Karen!
I think you need to get ahold of your L, vacation or not, ASAP! This is serious.
If you have had any doubts before about your H's intent, after this stunt you should have none left. He is forcing his will on the situation with zero regard for the children's safety, let alone their other needs.
Or a quick call to 911. He has some serious control issues. Someone that thinks and acts like this is not stable in my opinion. I agree with NoCode. Get a hold of your L now. Tell them about the "abduction" and that H is not sticking with your agreed schedule even though you told him no x number of times. This is not a game(perhaps for him), but if he doesn't get his way I can see him doing this on a bigger scale.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
My L said if we had problems (guess what we did!) when she got back from vacation she could set an emergency hearing re: visitation. We have nothing in place. When we went to court the first time X didn't ask for any visitation, and at the time wasn't even having the kids for any overnights at that time. X prob. planned to just take them whatever days he wanted. So a hearing will need to be set. I am hoping his actions in the last 2 weeks will help, plus his lack of parenting for 15 years before that. I do think he's unstable. I was thinking yesterday he's kind of dangerous maybe. I don't think he's thinking about the kids' best interests for sure. I don't think at this point he should be having much parenting involvement, unless he gets counseling and whatever else he needs. I have always wanted to have him see the kids as much as possible, but the last 2 weeks have made me change my mind. I'm going to talk to the L about limiting his time with them. I hope in a year or 2, if he got counseling, we could increase it, but not now.
X sent me an email this am. He had told me to put lunch money in D9's account, It's about $35-40 a month. I emailed back I just spent $60 on D9's meds for the month, I'm paying for their therapies, and both have dentist appts. next week which I'm paying for--hundreds of dollars. So I emailed that info and said at this point I don't have the money to put into her account. He emails back this am:
Quote:
OK. re school lunches i guess you can pack her lunch. have you gotten any work? 8, or more, uninterrupted hours daily must help.
I just emailed back that D9 loves her school lunches. I'm perfectly willing to pack her lunch each day as I did this summer for her camps, but she got tired of the sandwich routine. If he would help pay some of the medicine or dentist or therapy costs, then I would put that towards her school lunches. If he doesn't, I'm going to print out that email as proof of his caring or lack of it (and his rude email appears on the bottom of the reply). I can't believe a judge won't see this stuff and think favorably of someone like that.
And I realized today, I used to get so upset and email him repeatedly and he could just push my buttons like crazy. But today I mostly was thinking how he's hurting D9 in his effort to mess with me. He can't push my buttons much anymore. And I think all the childnapping has backfired, b/c I'm just committed to limiting his time with them, which I never was until today.
I can't believe a judge won't see this stuff and think favorably of someone like that.
All depends on the b/s his L can shovel and how much clout they have in court system, I learned that the VERY hard way. My X got away with so much because her L was a regular in that courtroom, mine was outsider, mainly proacticed in a different county where I reside now.
Did you follow up with the kids and make sure they were ok last night?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I emailed my L and told her about yesterday & I'm concerned about X and his parenting and want to set a hearing re: visitation, and try to limit his time with him. I am feeling crappy about doing that, but I think I have to look out for the kids first at this point.
No, she's a solo practitioner. She has a legal secretary I can leave messages, but I think I'm just going to have to be patient until the 28th. I don't think he's going to try to pull anything again until next week and she'll be back by then. Do you think this stuff he's pulled this past 2 weeks could help me win primary custody of the kids? I hope so!!!
