If he wants to come over to see the boys, great, but don't talk to him about the divorce. Also you need to ask for laywers fees. You didn't want this, so let him pay for all of it. And let the lawyers do all the talking.

M-34/H-35/S-4
Bomb-11-08
OW confirmed 12-08-OW ends 6-09
D finalized 4-10
Stronger=Happy