Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[are you kidding]

oh one more? when do i say want the kids for a couple hrs on sunday. i'm really against taking them to where i'm staying right now.

[Mach1]

AYK,

Listen man, I'm gonna be honest here.

This is getting hard for me to read, and from past experience, and I'm seeing it here already.

A lot of GOOD people here are just gonna quit posting to you.

There is something that missing in your thought process, and you are NOT absorbing anything that is posted to you.

I hope that you start "getting" this, before that happens.

Treat this as a business right now as far as the money goes.

For everything else.....Duct tape and sit on your hands.....

[are you kidding]

Feeling good,but I know I am depressed and anxious.

Lexipro,I've made it this far.

To get her out of the lease is going to be thousands of dollars. It will take every dollar I have saved to get her out.

I am comfortable where I am staying, I do not want to take the kids there, I don't want them to have that memory.

There are a lot of houses for sale in our neighborhood,houses that she wouldn't see,with how it's laid out. Always wanted one with a cul de sac anyway and walking distance for kids,but away from current house.

Why I asked about an attorney is kid related,nothing else.

The money,I know what's in the checking acct now, would it be sending the wrong signal if I took half?

When would be the right time to just say kids decide when 18 which is what should have said.

Does that make more sense?

[are you kidding]

Ok duct tape,sit on my hands,be quiet,no email,no text.I'll wait.

[brandnewday]

Klonopin saved my life.

I developed a major anxiety disorder and had panic attacks when I was going through this.

Walmart sells duct tape in an array of colors!!!

[Grace_O]

Ayk,

Consider taking up origami (you can do amazing things with the colored duct tape too ). Anything that will help occupy your mind.

If exercise is something you enjoy (or even if it isn't) do something there. Weightlifting, long walks, whatever floats your boat.

Don't know what that is? Then try something...anything. It will help clear your mind so you can think too. Think community recreation dept (if you have one), inexpensive and (here anyway) lots of choices.

I am comfortable where I am staying, I do not want to take the kids there, I don't want them to have that memory.

Would you prefer they have the memory that they weren't important enough for you to have them come and stay with you?

HUGS

[are you kidding]

meeting new marriage cnslr today,haven't met her like her though, she calls back within 24 hrs,set up db coach and add cnslr for sat.

[are you kidding]

I know, I just now how I have the memories when my parents split.Didn't want the kids to have same memories.

[Grace_O]

I get it. There's nothing you can do about the memories they will have.

What you can impact, is that they know how important they are and that you have the intent to be there, have them in your life and be their Dad. No matter what. Even if they get angry. Even if...whatever.

[Mach1]

Just a thought here...

Since you seem to have like, 45 different councelors at your disposal....

Any chance you might take the oppurtunity to have some parenting time with them and the children ?

YOU have the chance to build new memories for them to have in the future.

So your memories of this sucked, dust off and give them a memory of how to fight.

Ever read about Ghandi?

And his non-violent approach, that was SILENT ?

You should.

The easy way is to walk away...

One doesn't fail when they lose, they fail when they quit....