Hi Bill, Just catching up and wow! You two are doing so well! And thanks for your openness and honesty in your posts. I really think that intimacy is a huge issue for many of us and to have a forum to share the questions and concerns is great.

Caution - don't proceed is sexually squeamish!

So along that line, I too rarely have an O during sex with my H. [I think that my body's response to three pregnancies has affected that even more - I can't relax and enjoy because my body is too relaxed to enjoy - other women may know what I am talking about and I have talked to my OB about this.] Many times we'll use mechanical assistance to get me there. The difference is that he has bought our "toys" or encouraged me to. And being on top along with assistance makes everything happen all at once - if you get my meaning! But if you've caught up with my thread of late, my H and I have reconnected sexually after several months apart - even though he isn't home yet. But I have great hopes that it will help in bringing him home!

So if you weren't embarassed about being so open before, I probably put you over the top. Sorry. But, your W shouldn't feel guilty about not having an O, I have assured my H that it isn't his fault and I still love having sex with him and am completely satisfied even without an O every time. Besides, I'm with you - the lead up to the act is so enjoyable. Luckily my H is the same way!

Okay - back to normal stuff. Glad to see that your W is getting into the decorating. I have been doing a great deal of it around here while H has kids and it is making a difference in our R too. I even took down a wall and he helped complete the demolition. Now I have to run to Home Depot and return some carpet samples before they close.

Keep up the great work! You make me dream of the day that I will join piecing. You have made such great strides in yourself and in your R. Be proud of yourself!


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