Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

Hi EB,

Your sitch is very close to mine. My W has said some of the exact same things to me as she is moving out (i.e. "I love you so much"). It is strange. I have got some good advice; most of it is just stay quiet. Don't interact unless they initiate, then keep it short. I have gotten pretty good at not initiated contact, I still have a problem keeping it short when she does come to me. It does help.

Take care.

Thanks for the feedback. I've checked in over at your place a couple of times. We do have a lot of similarities.

I have initiated some contact, but only a little. I have feared that if I left her completely alone with her tainted memories she would always see me as the guy that she has turned me into in her head. If I can overwrite those with a little compassion and warmth I want to.

I have gotten a LOT better at keeping it short and just staying quiet. I mean, who wouldn't want to respons when she says she's so sorry. The thoughts of, "well then don't do this" come to mind. I didn't respond though. I think she just needed a hug.