My L said if we had problems (guess what we did!) when she got back from vacation she could set an emergency hearing re: visitation. We have nothing in place. When we went to court the first time X didn't ask for any visitation, and at the time wasn't even having the kids for any overnights at that time. X prob. planned to just take them whatever days he wanted. So a hearing will need to be set. I am hoping his actions in the last 2 weeks will help, plus his lack of parenting for 15 years before that. I do think he's unstable. I was thinking yesterday he's kind of dangerous maybe. I don't think he's thinking about the kids' best interests for sure. I don't think at this point he should be having much parenting involvement, unless he gets counseling and whatever else he needs. I have always wanted to have him see the kids as much as possible, but the last 2 weeks have made me change my mind. I'm going to talk to the L about limiting his time with them. I hope in a year or 2, if he got counseling, we could increase it, but not now.
X sent me an email this am. He had told me to put lunch money in D9's account, It's about $35-40 a month. I emailed back I just spent $60 on D9's meds for the month, I'm paying for their therapies, and both have dentist appts. next week which I'm paying for--hundreds of dollars. So I emailed that info and said at this point I don't have the money to put into her account. He emails back this am:
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OK. re school lunches i guess you can pack her lunch. have you gotten any work? 8, or more, uninterrupted hours daily must help.
I just emailed back that D9 loves her school lunches. I'm perfectly willing to pack her lunch each day as I did this summer for her camps, but she got tired of the sandwich routine. If he would help pay some of the medicine or dentist or therapy costs, then I would put that towards her school lunches. If he doesn't, I'm going to print out that email as proof of his caring or lack of it (and his rude email appears on the bottom of the reply). I can't believe a judge won't see this stuff and think favorably of someone like that.
And I realized today, I used to get so upset and email him repeatedly and he could just push my buttons like crazy. But today I mostly was thinking how he's hurting D9 in his effort to mess with me. He can't push my buttons much anymore. And I think all the childnapping has backfired, b/c I'm just committed to limiting his time with them, which I never was until today.
