On one hand, I agree that I should set boundaries. On the other, I'm watching my W fall apart before my eyes.
She's not being an angry, hurtful person. She's telling me that she needs to experience independence. She left her parents house and moved directly in with me as a teenager.
I have set these lines int he sand before and all it did was reinforce her idea that I am a selfish person who didn't care about her needs. When I have told her that I am her friend and truly want her to be happy, it starts to bring her back around. Drawing the line ends up making a you against me situation where being her friend and supporting her kind of puts us on the same team.
She even wants me tom be involved with her new place. I don't know if I can do that, but it seems like a good thing that it's what she wants.
This whole thing is mental. She loves me, can kiss me, sleep with me, ML with me, but can't live with me or open up to me.
With that said, she still says her overall goal is to come back home in the end. (no promises though).
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
