I'm not certain how I would feel about having her move out, but then come back home whenever she wanted. I think I would establish a boundary - if she moves out, she needs to find a place in her apartment to work. Let me guess - you won't be allowed a key to her apartment to just walk in whenever you want?
In my opinion, now is the perfect time for you to cut the cord. She bears this responsibility at this point. You are there for her, you have expressed your feelings but not pressured.
However, you even said that you have been a husband no one would leave RECENTLY. Maybe she's not sure if it'll stick, and you're just trying to get her to stay? You bear a huge responsibility here to your wife - that you will be this kind of husband forever.
Anyway, I would stop calling, texting, the hugging/kissing. I know it feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, and she'll probably react angrily/coldly, but the response simply is, "If you want to go or need space, I'm letting you go. If you decide you still want to be my wife, and want to be in this family, then we'll take appropriate steps at that point."
