Returning from the land of excuses...

[LolaL]

RR, well let's see. I get any number of excuses from he cannot afford it to he does not have time to file it because he is so busy at work.

Lets see:

We have to file a Motion with the bankruptcy court to lift the automatic stay so that I could file the divorce. Being that I am a paralegal, I prepared the paperwork in April, and just requested he sign off on it and pay the filing fee of $150. Has not been done. I wanted this to get finished because after my brother died, I decided to move back to the east coast and knew it would take 60 days to finalize, so I was just going to do it. I also had no job at that point so had no income, and he said fine. Yeah, he still hasn't filed it.

So then in like June I asked him if he was going to file, or if he just wanted me to file after I got residency in Virginia, which is initially where I intended to go. He said he would file it because otherwise we would have to wait at least six months. Nothing.

So in July, I sent him a text asking him if he was actually going to file it because the paperwork is extensive, and I didn't want to waste my time if he wasn't actually going to file it. He said yes he was going to file, so I sent him the petition right then and there. Nothing.

In the meantime, we really are not having much contact other than a few text messages here and there. I tell him I am in NY. I tell him I slept with someone. Nada. Nothing. No response. So that was when I pulled the trump card and reminded him that my dad had several connections w/ USCIS (former INS) remember stbx is trying for citizenship, and that seemed to catch his attention. This was in August. He said he would file the divorce within the next two months. I even offered to pay the filing fees, as I was now employed and got a small life insurance settlement from my brother. Nothing.

Then he calls me, blah blah, he got into a car accident and was out of work eight weeks, so that is why he got behind on his mortgage (whatever) and why he cannot afford to pay the filing fee but will have it. He says he knows I could pay for it, but it is a matter of pride (???WTF???)

So then I sent him an email a few days later stating that I could prepare a pauper's oath to submit to the district clerk that would waive the filing fee, and got no response. Ummmm yeah.

Here is the big kicker. Since I am now in New York State, I have to reside here for 2 YEARS before I can file. So this means that if he does not file, I will still be married to this idiot for another two years.

Why wait? He has been married before, twice, and filed right away with both other women.

At some point, I just asked him to let me go. The night that we did talk, I told him it was time for us to just move on, and get this over with, and he agreed. But yet he hasn't filed. I don't get it.