1. Thank him for the insight. 2. Tell him he can prove himself a loving father by talking with someone about how to love the kids, not just provide for them. A good father needs to deal with that forest fire of sin and depression so that he won't do "horrible things" in the future. His kids need to be able to count on him. 3. Then take out the prepared papers and hand him a pen.
(((BBJ))) I know you must be devastated... but it looks to me like he saved face and cushioned her fall by throwing you under the bus and sticking with the "spark is gone at home" line he's been feeding her all along. Unacceptable. Duh. The spark has been diverted for years, it needs to be primed and nurtured. He is just so screwed up.
Please keep moving forward. If he is the man you need, he'll do what it takes to catch you......
