For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

Thanks bluerain. : ) Your post made me smile. Thanks for the suggestion on how to detach. I'm only a few days into no contacting, not checking and not constantly worrying and I am feeling a little better. I do need to contact him today, but it is only to be sure he can pick up our daughter. My only reason to contact him will be about her.

Yes, I could make plans with a friend this weekend. Actually, it might be apple picking as a play date, but that's okay for me bc I will really enjoy it. And I do have some me things coming up - jewelry party, football party, dinner with a friend, a sorority event that a friend invited me to.

H is coming over on Tuesdays & Thursdays to see our DD and I will be leaving when he's here - getting ready (and looking good! lol) and not saying where I'm going. On some days it will just be to the library to read, but he doesn't need to know that. ha ha

I'm being strong...at least on the outside. And you know what? When he says things like he's doesn't feel anything for me - that is so very hurtful and I'm better off not talking to him and having my feelings hurt on a daily basis.

Last night when he left, instead of just watching him go, I was reading books and looking at flashcards with our DD and I didn't get upset when he left. These might be little things, but they are a start.

I currently work part-time. And I work today and tomorrow so that will help me to keep my mind off of him.

Hope you and everyone else on here has a great day! Thanks again for your support.